My wife and I recently watched [again] the movie "Juno."  It portrays the life experiences of a teenage girl who becomes pregnant and decides to have the baby and give it up for adoption.  The relationship of Juno to her parents, boyfriend, girlfriend and future mother of her baby, are all beautifully portrayed.  After the movie, I thought about "And a child shall lead them."  This is from Isaiah 11:6 in the old testament of the bible and is thought to refer to the second coming of Christ when all pain and suffering is gone and all creatures get along.  I believe that I thought of this because of the wisdom that Juno shows about relationships, love and what is important in life.  She grows in self-awareness [and confidence] and by sharing this with others [eg. by just being herself] she gives others the opportunity to grow in their own self-awareness and be transformed.

My own children and children who have come to me for help, have repeatedly shown me their ability to see things clearly.  I have learned to listen carefully to children and I have gained in my own self-awareness. Children trust themselves [if we don't get in the way].  As adults, we often have to relearn trusting ourselves.  Our children can help us, if we let them.  And a child shall lead them, your child can lead you.


Be grateful when someone upsets you.

Recently, a young adult patient concluded that "it's not external."  She had this awareness after we had been trying to understand the reason for conflicts in her life.  It had become clearer to her that when she was upset with others, it was really something about herself that was bothering her.  At first, this idea seemed weird and not true.  However, over time it became clearer to her that when she was "taking things personally" when interacting with others, it was really about her.  She then concluded that "it's not external."  

So, maybe when it feels "personal" when people do things that upset us, the personal may really be because it reminds us of something about ourselves that is bothering us.  So, I guess it really is personal. Being aware of the real meaning of "personal" when we "take things personally" can allow us to see our own feelings of vulnerability or uncertainty.  This in turn can allow us to realize that we have choices about how we view ourselves and how we react to others.  

So, I guess we should thank others when they upset us.  I wonder.  At least we might consider being grateful that others upset us.



When I was in college, I used to frequently change answers on tests.  Almost every time I ended up changing a right answer for a wrong answer.  Studies have found that abut 80% of the time we change right answers to wrong answers.  I only stopped doing this after one of my professors would go over my test in front of the class and point out the number of times I did this.  So, I stopped changing answers on tests but I then caught myself analyzing things and using a pros and cons list or getting the opinions of a number of people, to help me to make decisions. None of this seems to work.  I have come to believe that my first impression is the best one to go with.  I have had to learn to recognize my first impression or intuitive understanding of things as I can quickly think of another answer and tell myself that it is my first impression.  

I believe that our brains have stored lots of information that is ready for us when we need it.  We just have to trust these first impressions and act on them, even if we don't have a paper trail of how we came to this understanding.  Try it and see what happens.



Many of my patients tell me that they feel that there is nothing that they can do to make a difference in the world.  I encourage them to [just] be themselves and do what they believe is right. Over and over I have seen that how people live their lives and the choices that they make, influences other people and how those people live their lives.  When we are being true to ourselves and what we believe, this can change other people's lives.  You may not be able to tell that you have helped others, but you will feel more connected to other people and to yourself.  


TV NEWS: Too Much Stress In Our Lives

It is easy for each of us to underestimate the amount of stress that we experience every day.  I have found that many of my patients experience increased stress when they watch the news on TV.  The focus of the news is often on violence and offers no hope for change.  It is not possible to protect ourelves from the impact of what we see.  Therefore, watching the news can be very traumatic and yet we can become numb to the impact of this.

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