YOU'LL BE IN MY HEART

Dr. Payton

For some reason I listened to Phil Collins singing "You'll Be in My Heart" from the Tarzan movie.  After I listened to it I realized that I was singing to myself "I'll be in your heart." It seemed like a big difference and I wondered why I was doing this.  I will often follow my brain when it changes things or a memory pops up or an emotion seems to appear out of nowhere.  Since our brain's seem to be organized to give us information when we need it vs. when we demand it or want reassurance that we know something before we actually need to recall it [like for a test], I wonder if my brain is telling me something that could be important even if I don't recall requesting any information.  

So, what does it mean that I change the song from "you'll be in my heart" to "I'll be in your heart?"  Well, it reminds me of feeling responsible for someone in that I am somehow putting myself into the heart of another presumably to be able to watch over them and care for them.  Of course, it is up to the other person to decide who will be in their heart and not up to me.  This means that it would be better for me to be supportive of them and encourage them instead of taking over for them.  

After all, even with good intentions, if I take over for someone then I am saying that I don't believe they can handle a situation and that seems like I am insulting them. Even if they will have difficulty handling a situation and they feel that they need help, it is up to them to request it and then up to me to still encourage and support them before I take over for them. Taking over for someone does not seem like a good thing to do, even if it seems to be requested by the person. Really caring about someone [being empathic?] does not seem to involve taking over. What do you think?